Friday, December 21, 2012

India is Misogynous!

When the rest of the World is talking about reproductive rights, women in India still cannot freely leave their homes at night. Even having someone to "protect" you has proven useless - like this case in question.
You know what's worse? Comments like this - the Chief Minister of Delhi (kind of like the governor of the state) calling the journalist "Adventurous" like it's a negative term.
Delhi police is made up of victim blaming misogynistic assholes who say things like "Sometimes these girls go out, get drunk, have sex and then make a rape complaint". They also say things like "they wear revealing clothes, thus provoking young men".
And guess what the barbarians who assaulted this poor young woman who's in life support are saying? They wanted to "teach her a lesson".
India is full of misogynist assholes who actually genuinely think a woman's place is in the kitchen. 
A couple of months ago a woman returning from a pub was assaulted and molested in public view by these "culture worshippers". The morons who think women should not drink. The morons who uphold "Indian values". Watch this to know what I'm talking about.
There's more!

Female infanticide is still a problem. Female fetuses being aborted, young girls poisoned and buried. Men expecting their future wives to be virgins, but going around putting their dicks in anything that moves.

What's the reason for all this? Sexual repression? That's a cop out. Not every sexually frustrated teenager ends up being a rapist. No fear of law? The law is still there. A rapist gets 7 years in prison. That alone should instill fear.

I think it all boils down to the idea that they can perpetrate crime against women and get away with it. What's the reason? I think it's a deep rooted cultural problem. Watch any typical Tamil/Hindi movie to see what they think about women. Women are objectified beyond measure. This line from this article captures what Indian media is all about:
"Next time, when you cheer an unruly group of lumpen men led by the macho hero collectively leching an item-girl on screen, don’t forget that you are encouraging a culture of sexual objectification and domination over women. "
Some of the heroes/actors themselves are shown as "eve teasers" (that term itself causes such outrage in me, it's not teasing, it is outright sexual harassment in any other corner of developed world). Sometimes the hero gives sermons to the female lead about the virtues of being an "Indian girl". She should not wear "revealing clothes", not talk back when a man is talking and not act like "they are equal to men". Even a lot of modern films tend to portray this.

Is education the answer to this?

Not exactly, you see in arranged marriages even among educated families. People talk about "what is their demand?". Demand is just a different term used these days for the evil called dowry. The demands vary from a lot of jewelery + cash to jewelery + cash + car + practically your life's savings. Families agree to this for the sake of a good future for their sweet daughter. Don't they realize what they are doing? They are telling people it's okay to treat women lesser. Even those with education. 

You just have to go into the boys' hostel in any college/institution to listen to all the smack they talk about girls. "She wears revealing clothes - must be a hooker". "She is a slut". "You are dating her? She is a slut who'll sleep with anyone?". "She's easy, try her". These are not uncommon. All this, even without evidence. All they need is proof that the said girl went to a bar/a pub with a guy friend. That's enough to talk smack.

It is a deep rooted cultural problem that cannot just be taken away by educating everyone. Education is the start to a long term solution. When we are mothers and fathers, we have a responsibility to teach our future generation that talking smack about a girl because of her choices is not okay. A girl is not a second class citizen and is in no way less than a boy. The changes have to happen in every house. It will take time. But we should vow to start. From within us, our families, our friends and their families.

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